It was exactly a year ago today (to the minute) that I sent off an email to an administrator at my law school stating that I was resigning from law school. It was such a freeing moment. I think the closest experience I have had that rivals the relief I felt in sending that email was when I was finished with my mission for my church. I had spent two years, 24/7 almost exclusively thinking about sharing what I believed and helping those I met. I felt a burden leave my shoulders when my mission was officially over. There was a similar feeling when I finally committed to ending my law school journey. It was the hardest and scariest decision of my life, but I've come out on top.
I've known for a few weeks that this anniversary was coming, and it kind of frightened me, to be honest. I wondered if I'd be able to demonstrate through progress and growth over the past year to my readers and friends that quitting law school was totally worth it--that I was one of those people who quit, but went on to do great things.
But now that I'm reflecting on everything I've been through, I don't really care what my readers think about my decision. (I do wonder though, about the opinions of my former classmates. I wonder sometimes if they feel like I'm just that guy who quit because he was lazy, etc. I wonder if I make them feel better about their ability to stick it out? Alas, as Danie said, they'll talk, but then they'll just forget.)
The important thing about my decision? I know I made the right one. While I don't have a fantastically high-paying job that incurs as much respect as being a lawyer may, I am so much happier. My life feels stable enough for me to just focus on progressing and getting better at it all. Have all my problems gone away? Nope. Am I still pretty deep in debt? Yep. But I'm happy with my present state. I have a job that lets me get the variety I crave. I have the promise of being able to try various things that I've never done before. I get to work from home (a.k.a. anywhere with Internet)! I love my bosses. I really like where I live and feel like it suits me pretty well. I'm not happy that there are people who find themselves miserable in law school and find their way here, but I am very happy that through this blog I've been able to help people in various ways. I think a lot of people probably come here wanting something more from me, but I'm just happy if a couple of you leave here satisfied that you got a bit of help. Things are pretty darn good.
The other day, I had a friend who was facing a possible conflict with his work and he asked me to look over his contract. It was fun realizing that, while I couldn't actually state anything with the authority of a true barrister, I could still help him to know what he should talk to lawyers and interested parties about. I was reminded of some of the thrills I had in figuring the law out. However, it also reminded me that I didn't have to write a boring, rigid brief about what he and I talked about. I didn't have to deal with the politics of a firm. I didn't have the pressure of needing to get it all correct to avoid losing. I miss some things about learning the law, but I don't miss a lot of the other stuff that surrounded it.
Truly, I'm happy I quit. I guess that's the best thing I could have hoped to be saying at my one year anniversary of my decision to drop out of law school.
That is how I felt when I quit seminary teaching. TOUGH decision, but the right one. Way to be. :)
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